commented on The Field is Ripe
2015-07-01 18:39:54 -0700
Several statements in this piece strike me as wrong-headed. First: “Indeed, (the letter from Church leadership) is dangerous in its blatant preference for “traditional” marriage at the expense of all other families such as single parents, divorced parents, deceased parents, marriages unable to conceive children, mixed belief marriages, mixed orientation marriages, and families without children.” Blatant preference? As if preference for the traditional family structure is somehow shocking or self-evidently unkind? I believe that children do best in families with a mother and a father who love each other and treat each other with respect. OF COURSE, there are many situations in which that is just not in the cards. We all fall short of the ideal. But to suggest that simply saying that some family structures are preferable to others is the same as judging or condemning those who are doing the best they can in less-than-ideal circumstances, strikes me as simplistic, and frankly, a little silly. Also, she states, “It is time for Mormons as a culture to worry less about what will happen in the eternities on issues that our mortal brains can’t even slightly comprehend fully, and worry more about what we’re doing to our families right now.” The strength of the gospel is in having an eternal perspective, and what happens in the eternities is ABSOLUTELY where the focus of our thoughts should be. And that has everything to do with how we treat people today, in our very earthly lives. It is a false dichotomy to say that we can EITHER think about the eternities OR about how we treat people today. My eternal salvation is absolutely bound up in how I treat all of my brothers and sisters — whether member or nonmember, married or single, gay or straight, rich or poor. But I also believe that the truth will set us free, and that even well-intended falsehood or error is a foundation of sand. I cannot violate my conscience to avoid giving offense; but I can do my best to treat those around me with love, dignity, and respect within the bounds of truth and conscience — and always, always, with an eternal perspective.